One Reddit commenter put it this way: Further — everywhere men floated the “don’t smile in pictures” advice, many women decried how much they hated these nonsmiling pictures.
But, the men countered, women don’t necessarily know what they want.
If she responds in kind and messages you often then great.
Otherwise, match her pace before attempting to take things to the next level.
Okay, it’s time to have an open and frank discussion about the battle of the sexes and the dating game.
It’s far too complex, scary and difficult for mere mortals – so let’s bridge the gap by asking both men and women what doesn’t work when it comes to online dating Dating has gone digital.
Dating when you’re over 50 puts you in a whole different category.
The baggage is not so much Louis Vuitton, more like a supermarket plastic bag with holes in it.
But often you see guys putting really curious things in their profiles or sending pretty random first messages in an attempt to be quirky and different.
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.
After all, Ok Cupid’s findings were based on behavior, not just talk, right? Like everyone else, we believed in Ok Cupid’s conclusions. But every time we looked into this, we found the same thing: daters who used Photofeeler for photo testing were getting right-swipes like never before.
But the more data we collected about men’s dating photo attractiveness, the more it became undeniable: Ok Cupid’s advice wasn’t raising men’s photo scores. In fact, users reported 3-5x (200-400%) more matches!
The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.